When I wrote on marriage in the book Till Death I learnt a few new things about cars, medicine, writing itself and of course relationships. Back then, my Senior Partner and I came up with a few tips that could help married men resonate constantly in their wife’s minds.

After going through these tips, I would be glad if you provide feedback on the results of practising just two out of the ten tips over a period of time. Also, you could add tips from your own experience as comments. So here we go:

1. Send a very special SMS or IM everyday whenever you are away. Sample:

‘Someone got me really upset today then he wondered why I just smiled. I smiled ‘cos at that very moment, I thought about u’

2. Spend thirty minutes every day talking to her exclusively. Turn off the TV, your phones, your computer and just talk with her.

3. Have her pose and take pictures of her every weekend. Take pictures of her when she is asleep and surprise her with them.  

4. Do the cooking, house chores or take care of the baby all by yourself and let her do whatever she wants every two weeks.

5. Take her out to dinner, a park, the beach, the movies or wherever at least once a month.

6. Buy her a small gift every month. On special occasions – birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas – buy her a big gift.

7. Visit her at her office once in a while unannounced. Let her colleagues know you.

8. Take her on a trip out of town at least once a year. Depending on where you are going, vary the modes of transport.

9. Describe a part of her body in detail to her once in a while. You can recite it like a poem, write it and send it in the mail or capture it on a camcorder.

10. Confess your commitment to her in a spiritual atmosphere and let her reciprocate. Sample:

‘You belong to me and I belong to you. You are pleasing to me and sufficient for me. I will never desire another. Our souls are bound by a blood covenant in God the Father. Till Death do us part’.

This post was first published in July, 2011


  1. Ijeoma Ukandu November 4, 2018 at 9:42 am

    Just read this again. My previous comment still stands. Good reminder Ken! Regards to your lovely wife and son. Cheers.

    1. Kenneth Igiri - Site Author November 7, 2018 at 2:19 pm

      Always great to hear from you, Ma’am. Much appreciated.

  2. ijeoma ukandu October 6, 2011 at 2:12 pm

    My husband does all and even more. I am glad he found me. Nice one Ken.

    1. Kenneth Igiri - Site Author October 30, 2011 at 9:03 pm

      Awww… Knowing him, am sure he is excellent at being a husband. Thanks.

  3. Kenneth Igiri - Site Author June 9, 2011 at 10:01 am

    “He has put eternity in the heart of man…” @Wamene

  4. Kenneth Igiri - Site Author June 9, 2011 at 10:01 am

    “He has ut eternity in the heart of man…” @Wamene

  5. wamene June 9, 2011 at 1:49 am

    Lol!so how did u get inspiration without experience?
    Nice one though!

  6. Ademola Adedeji June 8, 2011 at 8:14 pm

    Nice one ken, i will try all!

    1. Kenneth Igiri - Site Author June 9, 2011 at 10:04 am

      Definitely! Please do and revert with results. 🙂

  7. General chew June 7, 2011 at 11:38 am

    I tried #4 but den i realised y oda men dont do it,de moment u start it,she will make a time table 4 it & woe betide you if u’re too tired 2 perform wat has now become ur obligation.i still do it tho,but once in a blue moon & not 2wks.WOMEN ARE LIKE CHILDREN.

    1. Kenneth Igiri June 8, 2011 at 8:45 am

      ha ha ha! She will??? Wow. Well i guess it will be a test of your love if she does. Call it the complexities of human nature.


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